We seem to forget.

In trying to make sure Joe is not going to be discharged to Mom and Dad's cottage, we seem to forget that Joe may already have a plan he would like to use. :0/ and he politely (yes really) told me that.
I informed him of what type of place I found and that they could possibly take him to his chemo/radiation treatments.
He said he has been pretty overwhelmed with the idea that his plan may not work.. and I am sure he does want it to work, and tackle this by his own plan. I did remind him, if he chose to go to the 24 staffed place, he would not be relying on friends for rides everywhere.
HE thanked me .. and basically, that was the end of discussion.
I did remind him that whatever place he decides to be discharged to... we are supporting him.

Like I typed to Mom and Dad,, his choice may not be ours.. but it IS his choice and I am sure the hospital may point out flaws if he is truly not ready to go to his own apartment.
Our main focus about bringing up this other option, was to get him out from under our parents microscope and make him more comfortable.
Our parents are still clinging to the fact that he will change his mind.
He will not, but wont' burst their idea that it might happen.


It is time for me to step back even more and allow him the time to mull things over and be there as a sounding board when he has to make the decision.