First let me lead off this post to tell you that Joe is doing well in his recovery.. he is doing his own tube feedings, has been able to squeak out a few sounds with his electrolarynx.. and is allowed to wander the halls some.
I have had to politely lay down the law that Joe going to our parents place is not the best idea upon discharge.. and I did get the cancer care coordinator involved to help me with this. I did have to explain all the problems VS the picture my parents are painting.
And this morning was a perfect example... dad was talking to me about his thinking/concern about getting mom down there to see Joe, when he says "hang on a minute". ( selfishly I am thinking ' ohh no, he thinks mom needs to be on the phone') NO>>! silly me, he reported that Mom was vomitting in the bathroom. YEP, here we go, I thought. But this was the perfect example Deb and I have been trying to stress to him. BINGO!
SO he not only had to change his personal dr's appointment, but re-arrange her endoscopy to this coming Monday....which means he has to take her. Which also means, he cannot go and see Joe!
His voice is soo strained and tired... I just can't bare it.
I do not want anyone to be stuck somewhere they do not want to be, so I am hoping that Mom gets her test done, possibly find a reason for this, listens to her rules... Joe gets to go to a stepdown/recovery unit so he can heal without the stress of being at Mom and Dad's....
I believe everyone will be mad at me at one point or another..but I do feel that all the info I have found, will truly help when all is said and done.
I believe that Dad really heard what I was saying this morning.. and may take my suggestion the way it was meant... for the safety and reocery for all.
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